You might not realize it, but deep down everyone is afraid. The big difference between you and all those people you can see who are successful is that they confronted their fears. They worked through their issues to get ahead or went ahead in spite of them. If you don’t face your fears, you’re likely to miss out on a lot in life. Someone once said that one of the saddest ways to sum up life is with could have, might have, and should have. Don’t let that happen to you.
You have a choice between controlling or being controlled by your fears. Here are 4 top tips for overcoming your fears and achieving your goals.
1. Baby steps
No matter what your fears are, from public speaking to mountain climbing, you don’t have to do it all in one go. Work out what you want to achieve and take baby steps. Each small success will increase your confidence and shrink down that fear.
2. You don’t have to do it alone
No one said you had to hide your fear or overcome it all by yourself. Build up a support network of family, friends, and colleagues who’ll have your back and cheer you on. Get professional advice from a coach or mentor or buddy up with a friendly colleague.
If you have anxiety issues that seem overwhelming, get professional help. Be kind to yourself and get whatever support you need.
3. Accentuate the positive
A positive mindset will go a long way to help dispel fears and worries. A negativity spiral makes things worse, increasing your paralysis and helplessness.
Look around you and actively identify what’s going right in your life. Change your mindset and expectations to focus on abundance and success. Half the battle is learning to accept that you deserve success, you deserve to win. You can focus your energy on getting there.
4. Take control of the story
Rewriting your narrative can knock your fears on the head once and for all. If you see yourself as a competent, successful person, those niggles of self-doubt, that negative self-talk won’t be able to get a toe-hold.
Take control of your story, decide to be brave, confident, and successful. Write down all the negative things that go round and round in your head. Make a list, and for every bad thing write a positive one. Bat down the self-doubt by setting down your skills, your strengths, your good points. You’ll soon see they outnumber the weaknesses, and you’ll be back in control of your own success story.